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  1. They had to go and spoil it

    November 6, 2008 by superlative

    I was so excited to see that America doesn’t always just pick the safe choice, and isn’t always going to be governed by old white men, and that young people can be active in politics and make difference. But then today I find that, while some things change, some also remain the same.

    Having drawn a line under its segregationist history by electing a black president, some Americans have shown that they are still more than happy to oppress a minority for no particular reason other than they are different to them. Proposition 8 has been passed in California with 52% of the vote, amending the state’s constitution so that now only marriage between a man and a woman is considered ‘valid’. It’s such a shame that the country can seem so modern and free, but at the same time it regularly reminds us that is also hugely conservative and dominated by religion.

    I don’t really understand the argument that gay marriage being called marriage somehow undermines the value of marriage in general. Although the advocates of Proposition 8 state that they are not making an attack on gay couples, as they can still form legal domestic partnerships in California, if you probe their argument more deeply you can clearly see it is homophobic and discriminatory:

    Marriage is an important and valuable institution -> Gay people getting married reduces the value of marriage -> If the legal part of being married is the same in both circumstances, the key difference must be the gay part -> To say gay marriage has a negative effect on the institution of marriage is therefore to say being gay is negative and somehow ‘less’ than being straight.

    So how can they say it is not an attack on gay couples? And I’m sure lots of people who voted yes on Prop. 8 do believe being gay is wrong, and that was the reason they voted yes, not because of some principled stand on the value of marriage.

    And saying “well they can form a domestic partnership, it gives the same rights, so they have no need to call it marriage” merely establishes a parallel, but separate system. Hmm, where have we heard ‘separate but equal’ before, now let me thing…. oh yes, segregation. I thought we’d accepted that was wrong?

    So, although they’ve made a big step forward this week, they’ve also made a step back and there is still lots of work to be done.


  2. One week remaining

    July 18, 2008 by superlative

    This time in a week, I should be dancing around my wedding reception. I hope that it’ll be at the end of a nice day where the sun has shone and everyone has arrived on time and it has all generally gone well.

    I’m feeling just about OK about everything at the moment, we’ve done pretty much all we can do this far in advance. Chris is finishing off the music playlist as I’m typing this – I think it should be really good, we’ve got loads of good songs on there. I was surprised how quickly 5 hours gets filled up with relatively few songs, we ended up having to cut loads of stuff out just to keep it down to the amount of time we’ll have. I don’t know yet if I’m actually going to get to dance to all the songs I’ll want to dance to (basically all of them) – I’ll have to choose: either talk to guests, and miss the dancing; or dance and be a bit antisocial. I think Chris has already said to everyone that he’s not planning on talking to people so don’t expect him to, he wants to dance. Which is fine in a way because we’ll hopefully be seeing quite a few people the following day anyway for additional food, drinks and maybe clubbing, so hopefully we can talk to them then.

    Other than the music, there’s really not that many things we can do now. We’ve just got to wait until Wednesday and Thursday when we can start doing things for the actual day. I’m only at work on Monday and Tuesday this week, which is good, but I think I’m going to have a hard time concentrating on my work – I just want to get on with the wedding now.

    And I really ought to start doing some stuff for America now – it’s so unlike me to have thought so little about a holiday when it’s only a week and a bit away! Thank god for the eight hour flight on Monday… I think that’ll be the first time I get to relax from about the previous Wednesday!